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The juice on creating your reality (and manifestation and other techniques)

I’m a sucker for a good manifestation technique. I’ve read the books, watched the lectures, listened to the podcasts, tried the journaling prompts, the visualizations, the scripting, the 369 methods, the “feel it as if it’s already yours” practices. For years I’ve been fascinated by the idea that we can call things into our lives. What’s fascinated me even more is how many ways there are to do it.

Over the years I’ve moved through a lot of different teachings: Manifestation, timeline jumping, reality creation, energy work, prayer, visualization. Shit, I’ve even gotten into deep into corners of the internet where people reference things like the Gateway Process and CIA studies on consciousness.

Each framework has its own language, its own rituals and its own explanations for why things work, but the longer I stayed in this world, the more I started noticing something interesting: they were all pointing to the same thing. The branding was different, but the mechanics had so many similarities. Every method seemed to be guiding people toward the same internal shift. Some taught visualization, others embodiment, others prayer or belief, but the underlying movement was always about changing your internal state in a way that allowed your external life to reorganize around it. Once I started seeing that thread, I couldn’t unsee it.

That realization shifted something shifted for me. I stopped thinking about this process as manifesting and started thinking about it as creating.

Manifesting often gets talked about like attraction and you can often see it referenced with verbiage like, “call it in” “align with it” and “act as if”. Timeline jumping talks about it a little differently. You’ll hear things more along the lines of: “Step into the version of you who already lives that life.” Reality creation frames it another way: “You are the architect of your experience.” Religion has its own language for this too, we’re all familiar with faith, prayer, and trusting in the unseen. I’m sure you’ve heard me say and discuss all of these at some point. The thing is for all of these different systems, there’s this underlying thing that’s the same for all of them: you shift internally so your life can reorganize externally. There’s a caveat though .. your nervous system must be regulated. Pleaseeee don’t roll your eyes at the overly saturated terminology and pleaseeee hear me out:

If your body is in survival mode and feeling like you’re constantly anxious, gripping, desperate, and/or hyper-controlling, your brain is not operating from the part that imagines, builds, or trusts. It’s operating from the part that scans for threats and tries to control outcomes. Guess what does not happen there: creation.

I remember not getting this. I remember not getting this and still practicing the methods and wondering why the hell it wasn’t working. I also remember rolling my eyes at the thought that I wasn’t fully believing that I was capable of what I was trying to create. I knew my worth, I knew I was creating the reality to support it. I kept trying to imagine the new life, I kept journaling, I kept repeating the things and listening to the frequency YouTubes. All while pretending I didn’t feel the little scream of desperation from deeeeeeeeeeeeeeep down inside:

“Would anyone actually join? Would they pay this? Does this come off entitled? What else can I offer so it feels worth it? Does this go against my ethics in this industry? All while feeling: ‘I know what I have to offer is amazing.” “If they can trust the work, I know they’ll get there so fast” “I know how to get them there, with ease too!” I knew what I was capable of and what I wanted but I was nowhere near ready to believe it would actually happen. I could picture it but I couldn’t feel it.

The thing that shifted that was me being honest as fuck about that last part. I was in such denial and kept getting met halfway with things that I’d create. I’d get a good push but something would be missing. I’d get the consult but the client had payment hesitations. I’d get the deal but for much less than I wanted. I knew I could be in the rooms but I didn’t believe they’d receive me well. I believed I had to do more to get minimum. SO guess what tf was happening? I got in the rooms (this part I knew would happen) and I’d do the most and request my minimum (not my intended fuck you, I’m worth it price). When I could no longer deny how I was sabotaging myself, the reason why my reality creation wasn’t poppin’ off was clear as day.

When your nervous system settles, even just a little, something opens up. Your mind becomes more flexible, your perception widens, and possibilities that felt invisible suddenly become visible again. I can’t stress this next part enough but that’s the state where you can start creating. You can start to feel it inside of you. That might look like noticing the opportunity you would’ve missed before, reaching out to someone, starting the thing you’ve been circling, or making the decision you’ve been delaying. It doesn’t feel like a bunch of question marks, it feels more like a period.

Creation is where imagination meets action. Creation is where the internal shift starts shaping the external world. Once I saw that thread running through every manifestation method I’d ever studied, everything started making more sense. The techniques are ways of helping people access this internal state of being and creation. Once I was able to understand that, I stopped obsessing over finding the perfect method, focused on the simpler task, and started to really create.

Now I can look back at journals I’ve written and pinpoint the thought, and then a few pages later pinpoint the realized version of that thought. It’s powerful to recognize those moments because they become reminders of how powerful you and your mind actually are. They become little pieces of evidence showing you what’s possible when your internal world and your external actions finally start working together.

What I’ve come to believe after all these years of trying different methods is that the technique itself matters far less than the state you’re in while you’re doing it. For some people creation really is as simple as feeling themselves inside the life they’re calling in. For others it looks like building something, taking risks, putting themselves in the rooms where the thing could happen. The common thread is that your body has to be settled enough to hold the possibility of it. A regulated nervous system is what allows imagination, belief, action, and opportunity to actually meet each other. Without that, everything stays stuck in the realm of wanting but with it, things start to move.

Don’t forget to sign up for my live workshop The Balancing Act on March 30 from 6–7:30PM!